[...Yeah that roughness kind of confirms a suspicion.]
I read about-- okay I didn't choose to, my therapist made me read about these things called spheres of grief once. Where when something bad happens or you lose someone, the person it happens to, those are the people in the center of the middle sphere. And every layer outward is like, people who are less and less directly emotionally related. So like... if someone dies, their family is in the center, then friends, then acquaintances, and so on, you get it.
But the thing my therapist said was that the support is supposed to flow inward, right? Hilbert and Eiffel are from the same place, they've been through stuff we're never going to hear about together, they've been here for ages with each other, they're probably closer to each other in a lot of ways than anyone else on board, right?
[She pauses, trying to think her way through how to put this.] So. They're the center, I guess, you know? And Eiffel seems like the kind of person who's going to probably brush it off, which means Hilbert is upset about it by himself. You and me--or I guess me, I don't know how well you know them, but anyway, I'm third or fourth or whatever number of rings out from emotional ground zero. Maybe I've got stuff that makes me feel some kind of way about how stuff went, and that's fine. But no one in the middle should have to give a crap about my feelings, not while they're still figuring out their own.
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I read about-- okay I didn't choose to, my therapist made me read about these things called spheres of grief once. Where when something bad happens or you lose someone, the person it happens to, those are the people in the center of the middle sphere. And every layer outward is like, people who are less and less directly emotionally related. So like... if someone dies, their family is in the center, then friends, then acquaintances, and so on, you get it.
But the thing my therapist said was that the support is supposed to flow inward, right? Hilbert and Eiffel are from the same place, they've been through stuff we're never going to hear about together, they've been here for ages with each other, they're probably closer to each other in a lot of ways than anyone else on board, right?
[She pauses, trying to think her way through how to put this.] So. They're the center, I guess, you know? And Eiffel seems like the kind of person who's going to probably brush it off, which means Hilbert is upset about it by himself. You and me--or I guess me, I don't know how well you know them, but anyway, I'm third or fourth or whatever number of rings out from emotional ground zero. Maybe I've got stuff that makes me feel some kind of way about how stuff went, and that's fine. But no one in the middle should have to give a crap about my feelings, not while they're still figuring out their own.