Maybe he'd be less confused if most of his contact with mortals - at least meaningful contact - weren't Barbara and Jason.

Regardless...

"There's something wrong with you, and I have never been less turned on in my life." That? Is a lie. He's good at telling them, when he wants to be good at telling them. Right now? He's just fine with it being a really, really overt lie.

Especially in a pair of silk pajama bottoms.

"Hands on the headboard." Up and behind. That's... not intentionally an order, but it is an order.